# Groupthink’s Going Cold list now flags people who have gone quiet for longer than usual

Published: 2026-10-08
Updated: 2026-10-06
Source: https://groupthink.com/releases/going-cold-own-rhythm/

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Groupthink, a memory for the people in your life and work, today announced that its Going Cold list now measures each person against what is normal for that relationship. Someone seen every week appears after about a week of quiet. Someone seen once a year does not appear until the year has passed. A person’s page can also now record when the user last really caught up with them.

## What changed

Going Cold is a filter on the Relationships page. It worked well for people with a cadence set, the setting for how often a user wants to be in touch, which Groupthink added in August. Most people in an account have no cadence, though, and for them the web app fell back to a single rule: quiet for 30 days meant cold. That rule read a weekly collaborator and a once-a-year friend the same way.

Now, when no cadence is set, Groupthink works out the rhythm kept with that person and lists them only once the quiet runs longer than that rhythm. The filter needs no setup. It works on the history already in the account.

## How the rhythm is worked out

Groupthink counts days of contact over the past three years. A day counts when the person was in a recorded meeting, when an interaction was filed under them (a [logged call, text, email or in-person visit](https://groupthink.com/releases/logging-interactions/), a note saved about them with a date, or a day of synced Messages), when a planned check-in happened, or when a calendar event with them was marked as having happened. A meeting and three texts on the same day count once. A calendar invite on its own does not count.

From those days it picks a rhythm: weekly, every two weeks, monthly, quarterly, every six months or yearly. A person needs at least three days of contact before they can be measured, so someone met once at a conference is never listed. The rhythm is read up to the last contact, so a weekly contact who has been silent for two months still reads as weekly rather than having the silence stretch the rhythm until they drop off the list.

Settings the user made still come first. A cadence the user set is used as it is. A cadence set to None means the person is never listed, and neither is anyone without a regular rhythm. The inferred rhythm is used only for this list. It does not set a cadence, does not add a Status chip, and nothing is written to the person’s record.

## Last really caught up

A text or a quick hello is not the same as catching up. A person’s page now has a Last really caught up line for the last time both people heard what is going on in the other’s life. It holds a day and, if the user wants, a line about what they talked about. It can be changed or cleared, and it cannot be set to a day in the future. Groupthink keeps it as written and does not turn it into a score or a day count.

## Why it matters

A list of people going cold is only worth opening if the names on it are out of character. A fixed 30-day rule mostly listed people nobody expected to see every month, and a list that is mostly expected names stops being read. Measuring each person against their own rhythm means a name appears because something changed in that relationship, and it works for anyone with enough contact history to show a rhythm, not only the few with a cadence set.

Groupthink includes a free trial. [Start one](https://groupthink.com/) today. People already using Groupthink can open Relationships and click Going Cold to see the new list.

This builds on [relationship cadences](https://groupthink.com/releases/introducing-relationship-cadences/), launched in August. The cadence suggestion on a person’s page now also says what it counted before it suggests anything, and a user can pick a different cadence from the same box. Going Cold, Last really caught up and the cadence suggestion are live now on the web at [app.groupthink.com](https://app.groupthink.com/relationships). The [Staying in touch guide](https://groupthink.com/docs/staying_in_touch) covers Going Cold, cadences and Last really caught up.