# Keep a private note of how a catch-up felt

Published: 2026-11-02
Updated: 2026-10-20
Source: https://groupthink.com/releases/how-was-that/

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Priya Nair had coffee with her old manager, Dev, on a Tuesday. She came home tired in a way she couldn’t name. A month later they had lunch, and she felt great after. By the next spring she couldn’t remember which time was which.

Most of us remember what we talked about. We forget how it felt. That second part is often the useful one. It tells you who leaves you with more energy, who you want to see sooner, and which standing lunch you keep out of habit.

Groupthink can now ask you about it, right after you log time with someone. One tap saves your answer. It’s private: only you see it.

## Log the catch-up

In Groupthink on the web, open **Relationships** and click the person. Click **Log** on their page, write a line about what happened, and pick how it happened, like **In person**. Save it.

## Tap one answer

Right after you save, a line appears: **How was that?** Next to **Afterward I felt**, tap **Better**, **About the same** or **Worse**.

That one tap is saved. You don’t have to write anything. You’ll see **Saved.** with two choices next to it:

- **Add more** lets you say who carried the conversation, what kind of time it was, and whether you want to see them sooner. There’s also a **Private note** box for anything in your own words.
- **Undo** deletes the answer.

Priya tapped **Worse** after the coffee with Dev and added a note: “Spent the whole hour on his reorg.”

Groupthink asks at most once every two weeks about the same person, so it doesn’t turn into homework. In between, a small **How was that?** link is there if you want to answer anyway. If you skip it, nothing is saved.

## It stays with you

Under every answer, Groupthink says what it does with it: “Only you see this. Never used in messages or shared with AI tools you connect.”

These are your notes about how time with someone felt to you. Nobody else sees them.

## See how it’s felt over time

Their page has a **How it’s felt** section. Once you have three or more answers, it fills in. It’s closed until you click it, and it’s marked **Private to you**.

Open it and you’ll see:

- **Afterward you felt, newest first**: each answer with its day. Click one to see the note you wrote.
- **What happened** next to **What you noted**. The first is from the record, like meetings and how you were in touch. The second is counts of your own answers. They sit side by side and are never combined into a score.
- **Your reflections, newest first**, each with **Delete** if you want one gone.

By spring, Priya’s page for Dev showed four answers. The two that felt worse were both coffees where work came up. The lunches were fine. So she suggested lunch.

There’s more detail in the help center under [How It’s Felt](https://groupthink.com/docs/how_its_felt).

## Try it after your next catch-up

Groupthink is a memory for the people in your life and work. Most of it is what happened. This part is how it felt to you, and it’s yours alone.

If you already use Groupthink, log your next coffee or call and tap one answer. It takes a second. If you don’t have Groupthink yet, [sign up](https://app.groupthink.com/signup/) and start with the people you see most.